Hello! I grew up in Broken Arrow and attended the University of Oklahoma and Texas Woman's University. After graduating from OU I lived in San Diego, CA and Dallas, TX (Lived in Texas for 16 years).
I earned my master’s in counseling and family therapy from Texas Woman’s University. Plus an enormous amount of continuing education and certifications in health, coaching, polyvagal therapy, neuropsychology, breathwork, nutrition, yoga, meditation, trauma training, tapping, heartmath, sand tray and strength-based theories. I am a certified yoga teacher (200 level), mindfulness coach and Trauma-Informed Certified Teacher for Overcome! Anxiety by Sundra Institute.
I am licensed LMFT in Oklahoma and Texas. Licensed professionals follow strict training and education requirements and a variety of expectations set by the state board.
Recently we moved back to Tulsa to be closer to our large extended family. My husband and I have 3 children ages 20, 17 and 8 years old. We are an active family, busy with homeschooling, hiking, RV camping, exploring and traveling! I love spending my time in psychology trainings, nature outings, gardening and art activities. Current interests include expanding my own spiritual understanding, environmental awareness and meditation practices.
Growing up, I struggled with an unbalanced amount of anxiety and low self-esteem, as many of us do. Through my own personal work, counseling, meditations, spiritual retreats and learning how to manage not just my thoughts and feelings but also developed a deeper understanding of who I am, I began to allow myself to have a gentler, kinder, and more balanced relationship with myself and others. Life is not about living without sadness, self-esteem concerns or anxiety. That's impossible, anxiety is a normal part of living.
Instead, it's about learning how to ride the waves of anxiety so you feel confident in your ability to ride them safely to shore. We are all different. Learning how to ride the waves of life also entails cultivating compassion for yourself and for others so the ride is smoother and more enjoyable. How we ride the wave will be different for each person. I'm still exploring my purpose, I'm still working on my self-compassion, I'm still working on my anxiety and guess what, I'm still trying to figure out this thing called life. :-) We never reach this perfect place in life where sadness and anxiety go away. It's learning how to accept yourself (and others) even though you are struggling. We all struggle, it's our common humanity. Learning to love ourselves in the midst of our chaos is a mindset.
Yes, while I enjoy general eastern spiritual ideas and deep philosophical existential concepts I do not support spiritual bypassing- the tendency to use spiritual ideas and practices to sidestep or avoid facing unresolved emotional issues, avoid research, toxic positivity or psychological wounds.
I offer a safe space for LGBT and I have a sensitivity and awareness to the prejudices people of color face in our nation, its time to really listen....and I mean listen with our heart and soul to the pain and the experiences faced by minorities if healing can move forward. Intergenerational trauma that continues to impact minorities is a very important issue that needs to be widely discussed in our culture.
We do not live in a bubble! Our wellness is impacted by the overall system in which we live. We are all impacted by our family of origin, family, society, culture, sexual orientation, and gender. All play a major role in our identity and how we relate to the world around us.
No amount of anxiety regulation skills will ease the impact of the daily stress caused by racism, gender bias, ageism and chronic trauma in our world - we as a nation need to address the trauma as a society. This level of healing is deep and systemic and requires lots of inner and outer work. I state this because I am aware learning and practicing skills is only a small fraction of what brings healing into our lives. We are complex beings! Healing is a complex, messy and wonderful process. I offer one piece of the puzzle, but not the full picture of what is truly necessary for deeper work.
Common concerns I address in my practice
I also specialize in the young adult years. The young adult years are a rapid time of transformation and personal discovery. This time period is very unique and different from any other time one will experience in life. These years are a rapid transition to independence which can entail an enormous amount of personal growth which naturally can lead to an increase in anxiety, depression, stress, and relationship changes.
Therapist needing their own therapist. I know many therapists have done a lot of their own inner work and have an abundance of self-awareness already, so therapy needs to adjust to the unique needs of a therapist. Its helpful to have your own space to talk about your life, your own stress, your accomplishments and have someone else (nicely of course) hold you accountable to your own self-care and goals. I am naturally directive in my approach which can be helpful when working with other therapists. :-)
General universal understanding of spiritual awareness as it applies to mental health. I approach this from a non-religious stance but from a universal element of awareness and consciousness that is common to all - everyone has their own meaning and definition of what it means to be spiritual
Managing generalized anxiety and finding ways to practice awareness, compassion and regulation of the anxious temperament.
Body Confidence - Healthy Living - Emotional Eating - Binge Eating-I use EFT (tapping) in my work
Understanding how one's family of origin has impacted one's way of thinking and beliefs we hold about ourselves and how to move forward - as well as cultural impact.
Living with grief and having a safe place to be open about your journey through grief
I have an understanding and knowledge of neurodivergent individuals as well. I can adapt a variety of methods and skills based on individual needs.
Please note, I do not offer couples counseling, I was trained using a systemic lens - meaning I see how the whole impacts the few (how family and society impact the individual). I personally have found doing couples via "online counseling" poses too many obstacles for me, but there are many other therapists that provide couples counseling online and face to face. Good resource for couples is Provider search at AAMFT
See you soon online!
All my sessions are virtual