Why would I say embrace your self hate, fear or negative messages??
Let me share 1 poem and 1 Buddhist story
The Guest House
This being human is a guest house.
Every morning a new arrival.
A joy, a depression, a meanness,
Some momentary awareness comes
as an unexpected visitor.
Welcome and entertain them all!...
The dark thought, the shame, the malice,
meet them at the door laughing,
and invite them in.
Be grateful for whoever comes,
because each has been sent
as a guide from beyond.
Buddhist mythology Mara
In Buddhist mythology of the eve of the Buddha’s enlightenment; where the Demon God Mara, who is lord of death and embodies what is rancid in the world: anger, lust, greed, pride et al., attempted to challenge him whilst he was trying to achieve dharma in meditation.
The then Siddharta Gautama sat in the lotus position, as Mara tried to send his beautiful daughters to seduce him, demons to attack him, offer the riches of the world to sully him. All the while, the Buddha sat steady in deep meditation underneath the Boddhi tree. Every time Mara would present a challenge to him, it would disintegrate into flower petals. By day break, there were mounds of jasmine blossoms by the Buddha’s feet.
But Mara did not relent, he would appear at different times in the Buddha’s life. Once when he was giving a lecture, Mara sulked on the out skirts, plotting to strike.
The Buddha’s loyal attendant, Ananda, always on the lookout for any harm that might come to his teacher, would report with dismay that the “Evil One” had again returned.
Instead of ignoring Mara or driving him away, the Buddha would calmly acknowledge his presence, saying, “I see you, Mara.”
“I see you, Mara. Come, let’s have tea.”
He would then invite him for tea and serve him as an honored guest. Offering Mara a cushion so that he could sit comfortably, the Buddha would fill two earthen cups with tea, place them on the low table between them, and only then take his own seat. Mara would stay for a while and then go, but throughout the Buddha remained free and undisturbed.
MARA REPRESENTS OUR FEARFUL THOUGHTS, EMOTIONAL FEARS, INSECURITIES THAT POP UP FREQUENTLY.
BY ACCEPTING THESE MOMENTS with LOVING KINDNESS - "YES I HEAR YOU MY FEARFUL THOUGHTS, I HEAR YOU. I AM OKAY. I HEAR YOU" DEEP BREATH IN AND OUT.
WHEN WE APPROACH OUR NEGATIVE FEARFUL HATEFUL THOUGHTS WITH LOVE WE TAKE AWAY SOME OF THE CONTROL AND POWER OF THOSE BELIEFS.